Being Happy

Today when you read newspaper and watch news, the issues are retrenchment and H1N1 flu virus. Are you worried? Worrying may have positive effects if prompts you to take precautions like taking care of your health. Worrying will be negative if thinking something over and over again but do not resolve the situation or arrive at a solution to the problem.So why are you worrying? Don’t worries be happy! :) I’m sharing to you 3 points (S,M,L) from book called ‘being happy’, written by Andrew Matthews.

S-Self Image
Have you ever noticed that when you are feeling good about yourself, other people become very nice? Isn’t it funny how they change!

The world is a reflection of us. When we hate ourselves, we hate everyone else. When we love being who we are, the rest of the world is wonderful.

If you want others to respect you, treat yourself well and so set an example to other people as to how you should be treated.

Loving your neighbour as your selves automatically assumes that we should love ourselves. We should maintain a balance between our needs and our neighbour’s needs, respect both parties.

M-Mind

Your mind affects your life. Do you ever say to yourself “I mustn’t forget that” then go and forget it? Your mind cannot move away from forgetting. It can move toward remembering but only if your thinking is I want to remember that.

Your conscious thoughts contribute to building of your subconscious mind. When you learnt to eat with chopsticks, it took a lot of conscious thought and efforts. Overtime it registered into our subconscious mind. Daily you create programs in your subconscious by thoughts. So watch what you think!

As our thoughts affect our circumstances, so do the words we say. What you say is what you get.

Our words affect how we think and how we feel.

What we think affect what we say and how we feel.

How we feel influences what we say and how we think.

Hence we have a vicious triangle.

Living it the now
All you have is now. Regardless of what happened yesterday and what might happen tomorrow. Now is where you are. The present moment is the only time you have. Make something of this moment!

Jump into life at every opportunity. While you are waiting for one thing to happen, do something else. If your friend is late in picking you for dinner, organise your photo album or bake a cake until he/she arrives. In doing so, you demonstrate a certain detachment from the result. Letting go of the situation, accelerates results.

To live in present moment, we may need to forgive others and ourselves. If forgiving other is difficult, forgiving ourselves is even harder. Blaming and feeling guilty are equally dangerous and destructive. We are avoiding the real issue which is to do something about the problem.

It is our choice whether to get on with our life in the now or whether we chain ourselves to grudges and upsets of the past.

Laughter is the best medicine. Life is not that serious. Let’s take humour more seriously.

In conclusion, are you still worrying? Just remember S,M,L from 'being happy' book. You can read more from the book. It’s simple yet comprehensive and easy to apply. Happy reading…